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Hijabi Girl Problems: Dating

Cisnopost : Ghaya Beirouk

With the rapid growth of the media and its tremendous impact on our society and culture in the past few years, there’s been an increase of pressure on young Muslim girls to date. As someone who went to high school and university …I know exactly how it feels

It might seem like everyone you know is paired off. You might be surrounded by guys, guys who seem interested in getting to know you one-on-one, guys who may seem like a nice match, obviously Mr.Right. You might just want to join your group of friends when they go out and hang out with their boyfriends,but you just be sick of being the “third wheel”who is sometimes lost in a midst of their coupled friends. Or you might want to try and see what it’s like. Or you’re ready to get married and think that this is the best way to go about it. Or you might think that having a ‘halal boyfriend’ is no problem ..huh

There are many reasons that Hijabi girls feel pressured to start dating. You might have your own. And I know how hard it might be to resist. But I’m here to tell you to have patience.

Yes, it’s easier said than done. I know all about that feeling of being lonely and wanting someone to share your life and details with. But I also know that Allah (SWT) rewards those for abstaining from those things He has made unlawful. And one of the things He has made unlawful is relationships before marriage

If you’re still studying and marriage seems a long way away, it might be hard to wait for an imaginary someone, especially if you have a very real guy in your present. And by the way There’s nothing wrong with being attracted to someone. Often times we’re told by our elders that this is wrong ,it’s actually NATURAL.But my biggest piece of advice again is: keep your distance and have patience

So you might have someone in mind who you’ve met before and are interested in for the purpose of marriage and actually engage in a relationship and claim that you will marry this guy, and call him your ‘halal boyfriend’ since you set up very strict parameters about what you can and cannot do. You might have the best of intentions. But you have no guarantee that this boy will end up your husband nor do you know what Allah (SWT) has planned for you

In the Quran, Allah has told us in Surah Ar-Rum (30), Ayah 21 that “He created for you mates from among yourselves” . What could be more wonderful than being told by the Creator that He has created someone for you, that He has already thought of you and provided for you? So have patience

In the meantime, ignore media depictions of happy couples and focus on other things like treating yourself ! it is important to maintain a positive self image ,Join a club. Read some books. Hang out with friends. Start a hobby. Spend time with your family. Study the Quran. PRAY

Because Having a relationship isn’t everything. Focus on the things that make you happy, and inshAllah Allah will take care of the rest

With love

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طاقم عمل سيسنو بوست، هو طاقم من المحررين، الكتاب، المراسلين والصحفيين من مختلف المناطق الجغرافية، ليقدموا مزيجاً فريداً من التقارير والأخبار والمقالات ومنصة تدوينية للجمهور في المنطقة للتعبير عن أفكارهم وآرائهم.

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